Sunday, July 11, 2010

A Death Brought Us Together

This weekend I attended a memorial for a very old friend who passed away suddenly a couple of months ago.  Since the funeral was out of state, many of us who live in California were not able to attend it and therefore this memorial was planned. 

I had not seen this person in at least 15 years.  So his death brought about odd emotions.  If it had happened 15 years ago, I would have been devastated as he was a huge part of my life at that time.  But with the amount of time that had passed, I was sad, but didn’t fall apart. 

The memorial was on Saturday and this crazy mix of people attended.  Even though it wasn’t meant as a party, it was fun to see all this people who I hadn’t seen in forever.  It was so interesting that even though we were all older, in some ways everything was the same.  The people who were fun back then were still fun.  The people who were annoying or know-it-alls back then, were still annoying or know-it-alls. 

We kept saying, “It’s such a shame that it took a death to bring us all together again.”  It’s so true.  There were about 5 people there that I am in contact with regularly, but I had lost touch with all the rest – some intentionally, some not.  So even though the reason for getting together was sad, it was nice to get together and reminisce about old times. 


  1. I like to put a positive Spin on things like this myself. Good for you for not falling apart. Life goes on.
    Your Friend, m.

  2. This, once again, confirms the my opinion that a memorial should be a celebration rather than a sad funeral service.

    I'm glad you got to see your old friends.

  3. You know, just last night I was watching Little House on the Prairie and it happened to be about this old lady whose kids never visited her, so she roped in Doc Baker and Ma & Pa Ingalls and she faked her death and had fake wake, which she attended dressed in a black veil.

    Then when the kids were at the peak of morning, she lifted the veil and gave them whatfor.

    Then in typical LHOTP fashion, they all hugged and we cried.

  4. This was vague.
    But vague is good! : )
    Do you think you will see the ones you like again?

    I hate annoying people. I always worry that I will be one. And then Gary says if you worry about it you probably are and then I punch him in the arm. I am very violent AND annoying. Darn it.